Ajay is a teenager who was sent to his high school teacher, Srilatha. Ajay had been in trouble so many times that he was in danger of being admitted in a special school for kids having behavioral problems.
Most teachers would have discussed Ajay’s problems with him, but Srilatha didn’t.
Srilatha: Ajay, are there classes where you don’t get in trouble ?
Ajay: I don’t get in trouble much inclass.
Srilatha: What’s different aboutclass ?
Soon Srilatha had some concrete answers.
1.greeted him at the door
2. She checked to make sure he understood his assignments
3. She gave him easier tasks to complete. ( His other teachers did none of the three )
Now, Silatha had a roadmap for change. She advised Ajay’s other teachers to try these three techniques. And suddenly Ajay started behaving better.
We’re wired to focus on what’s not working. But Srilatha asked “What IS working, today, and how can we do more of it ?”
You’re probably trying to change things at home or work. Stop agonising about what’s not working and ask yourself “What’s working well , right now and how can I do more of it ?”